Driving With the Handbrake On

And How to Finally Release It

We chase goals. We work hard. Eventually, we achieve.
And yet, something always feels unfinished.

I used to think fear was something obvious—panic, doubt, hesitation.
But I’ve learned that fear often hides. It disguises itself as ambition, productivity, discipline.

We don’t feel it as fear—we feel it as urgency. So we keep going, believing the next milestone will finally calm the storm.

But does it?
In my experience, it doesn’t.

Fear, when left unexamined, stays around. It just finds new shapes.

Have you ever seen a perfectionist achieve success?
Their perfectionism gets validated, but the insecurity underneath remains.
Now, with authority, they might start pushing their fears onto others.

Fear always finds a way to spoil the party. Sometimes we don’t celebrate because we want to look humble. Sometimes we reach a goal only to feel it's not enough—that there's still so much more.

• So why not pause and pay attention to our fear patterns?

• Why not start the process of deconstructing them?

• Why are we in such a rush to achieve?

Deciding to move forward without facing our fears is like driving with the handbrake on. Yes, the car moves—but there's resistance, friction, strain.

When we turn to face our fears, we might receive an unexpected gift.

Our fears never intended to harm us. They were created by us, for us—with the intention of protection.

They emerged in response to a perceived threat, real or imagined. But over time, those patterns outlived their usefulness. And like an old alarm clock, they kept ringing long after we needed the wake-up call.

When we truly listen, we often find that many fears no longer have a purpose.
And when a fear loses its function, it begins to fade.

Some fears are deeper—rooted in old unspoken stories.
But even these, when they are seen, they soften.
Understanding their original intention is a powerful investment.

And then something shifts.

As the outdated fear patterns leave, they leave behind space. It feels like freedom.

That space is fertile ground for growth, for experimentation, for creativity.

Are you ready to take time out of your day to day, see your fears and insecurities, and claim back some of the spaciousness of your freedom?

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To me, freedom is what happens when there is no fear.

I wish you an empowering week!

Love,

Jose.

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