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Carolyn Parker's avatar

Thank you for posting a link to this post in your reply to my comment earlier.

Yes. This is a clear distinction. I particularly like the “ if xyx then abc so ACT”

My present situation of my house buyer pulling out so close to completion day has put me into fear / lack mode .. if I can’t find / attract a buyer (by end of the month .. more pressure) I might lose my ongoing purchase/ the flat in my “dream” location that I’ve been looking forward to moving to for over ten years (which would cause me a lot of sadness)… and I will have to delay moving there / go through another sales process ( more discomfort) SO ..

I’ve been in total freeze mode and then madly thinking of everything I could do to be able to go ..

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Sae Abiola's avatar

This distinction between instinctual and psychological fear is so insightful, it really helps to understand how fear works both as a natural survival response and as something shaped by our mind and experiences. Reading this made me reflect on my own psychological fear recently. I found myself afraid to speak up or move forward, held back by that internal barrier. But this week, I made a conscious decision to step up for myself, to speak out no matter the risks, because I didn’t want to keep suffering in silence or letting fear control my life.

Seeing fear through these two lenses gives me a new perspective on how much of it is rooted in instinct and how much is shaped by our thoughts and emotions. It’s empowering to realize that while instinctual fear can protect us, working through psychological fear is key to reclaiming our voice and agency. Thank you for this thoughtful breakdown, it’s helped me process my own journey with fear on a deeper level.

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