Thank you for posting a link to this post in your reply to my comment earlier.
Yes. This is a clear distinction. I particularly like the “ if xyx then abc so ACT”
My present situation of my house buyer pulling out so close to completion day has put me into fear / lack mode .. if I can’t find / attract a buyer (by end of the month .. more pressure) I might lose my ongoing purchase/ the flat in my “dream” location that I’ve been looking forward to moving to for over ten years (which would cause me a lot of sadness)… and I will have to delay moving there / go through another sales process ( more discomfort) SO ..
I’ve been in total freeze mode and then madly thinking of everything I could do to be able to go ..
The distress that comes from "trying" to get all working is actually making you see part of reality. That doesnt help you enjoy the process, see even better posibilities and doesnt let you find reasons to be grateful to what you have now.
"Wanting" to attract something is already accepting lack.
Instead of control, release. Have faith in the fact that with or without the ideal home, you can live a fantastic life.
And one more thing... your happiness doesnt depend on what you get or have. Your happiness depends on your capacity to see your life beyond personality, stories, thoughts, percetions, and emotions.
This distinction between instinctual and psychological fear is so insightful, it really helps to understand how fear works both as a natural survival response and as something shaped by our mind and experiences. Reading this made me reflect on my own psychological fear recently. I found myself afraid to speak up or move forward, held back by that internal barrier. But this week, I made a conscious decision to step up for myself, to speak out no matter the risks, because I didn’t want to keep suffering in silence or letting fear control my life.
Seeing fear through these two lenses gives me a new perspective on how much of it is rooted in instinct and how much is shaped by our thoughts and emotions. It’s empowering to realize that while instinctual fear can protect us, working through psychological fear is key to reclaiming our voice and agency. Thank you for this thoughtful breakdown, it’s helped me process my own journey with fear on a deeper level.
This kind of message is exactly why I write this publication. Understanding fear is essential to break the limitations our conditioning made invisible to ourselves.
In my past posts you’ll find more examples and ways to understand fear and also what can we really learn from failure.
Thank you for writing this helpful article Jose. Fear indeed can either help us move forward or keep us stuck. Understanding the nature and space where is it originating from can help us work with it and allow it to guide us.
Thank you for posting a link to this post in your reply to my comment earlier.
Yes. This is a clear distinction. I particularly like the “ if xyx then abc so ACT”
My present situation of my house buyer pulling out so close to completion day has put me into fear / lack mode .. if I can’t find / attract a buyer (by end of the month .. more pressure) I might lose my ongoing purchase/ the flat in my “dream” location that I’ve been looking forward to moving to for over ten years (which would cause me a lot of sadness)… and I will have to delay moving there / go through another sales process ( more discomfort) SO ..
I’ve been in total freeze mode and then madly thinking of everything I could do to be able to go ..
The distress that comes from "trying" to get all working is actually making you see part of reality. That doesnt help you enjoy the process, see even better posibilities and doesnt let you find reasons to be grateful to what you have now.
"Wanting" to attract something is already accepting lack.
Instead of control, release. Have faith in the fact that with or without the ideal home, you can live a fantastic life.
And one more thing... your happiness doesnt depend on what you get or have. Your happiness depends on your capacity to see your life beyond personality, stories, thoughts, percetions, and emotions.
This distinction between instinctual and psychological fear is so insightful, it really helps to understand how fear works both as a natural survival response and as something shaped by our mind and experiences. Reading this made me reflect on my own psychological fear recently. I found myself afraid to speak up or move forward, held back by that internal barrier. But this week, I made a conscious decision to step up for myself, to speak out no matter the risks, because I didn’t want to keep suffering in silence or letting fear control my life.
Seeing fear through these two lenses gives me a new perspective on how much of it is rooted in instinct and how much is shaped by our thoughts and emotions. It’s empowering to realize that while instinctual fear can protect us, working through psychological fear is key to reclaiming our voice and agency. Thank you for this thoughtful breakdown, it’s helped me process my own journey with fear on a deeper level.
If at anytime you’d like to have a conversation, I’m up for it!
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Thank for sharing your comment.
This kind of message is exactly why I write this publication. Understanding fear is essential to break the limitations our conditioning made invisible to ourselves.
In my past posts you’ll find more examples and ways to understand fear and also what can we really learn from failure.
Thank you for writing this helpful article Jose. Fear indeed can either help us move forward or keep us stuck. Understanding the nature and space where is it originating from can help us work with it and allow it to guide us.
Yes, and we must have present that others can use our fears to manipulate our opinions, decisions and actions.